Family Advice For Addiction

Family Advice
Don't Panic

Don’t panic

The best piece of family advice for addiction we can offer in the early stages is to not panic. As difficult as it may be for you when you discover your loved one is addicted, don’t panic. You will likely experience a wave of emotions from shock to anger, but unleashing them on the person won’t help. Like in aeroplanes when they tell you to apply your own oxygen mask first in a crisis, begin with self-care. Talk to someone. Go to a counsellor or support group. You must conscious not to patronize or belittle your family member. This can be hard when your parental nature springs up in reaction to the potential danger they’re in. You might not notice you’re doing it, but they sure will. The last thing you want is to drive them away.

Professional Help

Get Professional Advice

In the rush to help their loved ones in addiction, people can sometimes make mistakes. These can result in arguments or even their loved one running away. For this reason, you should always consult a professional on the best course of action. Everybody has opinions, but not everybody is an expert on a given subject. Your friend or co-worker might want to help you by telling you what they think. Yet, if the advice they give you backfires, you can be in a worse position than when you started. Addiction can be a very serious and life-threatening health condition. It should be taken seriously. Addiction can cause long-term effects for their health, financial, and legal standing. Start by contacting us now for a free consultation over the phone or by email. Alternatively, check out Spunout.ie.

Confronting a Family Member in Addiction

Confront the Person

 
Don’t be afraid to convey your concerns to your family member about their addiction. Ask the tough questions about how much they’re using or spending. Ask how long it’s been going on for, and if they think it’s out of control. A lot of the time, addicts will lie or downplay their addiction. Sometime this will be deliberate and sometimes they will genuinely not realise how deep they’re in it. Regardless, once they know that you are aware and concerned, they will be forced to take action. That action could be positive, such as admitting they have a problem and looking for help. It could also be a negative reaction, wherein they lie more and more. As addictions typically get worse and worse, they will have to address it with you sooner or later. This is the first step to them making a change.
Action Plan

Create an Action Plan

 

An action plan is an agreed set of goals for you and your family member to work on. This is an important lesson in family advice for addiction. You must create this through mutual discussion and agreement. The action plan can involve a series of steps with the end result being freedom from addiction. Steps can include anything from going to counselling or support groups once a week. Or only spending a certain amount of money. It’s important that the person doesn’t feel patronized by the action plan. For adults, the idea of being home by certain times or giving their money to parents can be embarrassing. There has to be buy in from their end. Where possible let them lead the discussion around what the goals should be. Then, hold them accountable to their decisions.

Safety Plan

Create Safety Plans

 

A safety plan, like an action plan, is an agreed set of actions designed to ensure the safety of the addict or others. You can create two safety plans if needed. The first may address their safety. It can look at things like what to do in the case of an overdose or relapse. It can include things like code words that they can use to let you know they’re in trouble. If they find themselves around dangerous people, being able to call you to collect them without any questions could save their lives. Likewise, a safety plan to protect you and the family could also be a necessity. If your family member is a risk to your safety or financial security, a plan should created. This could detail how they accept they cannot turn up affected. Or it could specify how if they steal anything, they won’t be allowed back. A safety plan like this is important for vulnerable family members, like children.